Practical guidance in the education of the
strong personality
Work with children's fears - first of all, this is a serious attitude to
the fears of the child. Oddly enough, this is not always justified.
This book provides practical guidance on how to overcome childhood fear,
the causes of fear. Examples and steps to overcome various children's fears are
given.
If your children have this problem, apply step by step the rules for
overcoming various fears in children and the education of the strong
personality.
Preface
Perhaps fear is the most dangerous of all emotions.
This is a feeling that appears with experience: having experienced fear once,
we will experience similar emotions in similar situations. And it is especially
important to pay attention to the fears of children because along with the
cognition of the world, a child can form various fears, which in the future may
adversely affect his life.
Work with
children's fears - first of all, this is a serious attitude to the fears of the
child. Oddly enough, this is not always justified. Sometimes it is best to
relieve from fear the cheerful look of an adult who is confidently surprised:
"Why are you afraid of such nonsense? Come, I will show, it is not at all
scary!"
Dealing
with children's fears has its own specifics, if only because children
themselves very rarely formulate a request for freedom from fear. Typical
request of the child: "Sit with me, I'm scared!", While children do
not always want to get rid of fear.
Contents
1. Types of children's fears
2. Causes of children's fears
3. Children's fear of the darkness
4. Childhood fear of death
5. Work with children's fears
6. How to raise a child strong
7. Children's psychology complexes
8. How to find the approach to the
child
9. How to teach child independence
10. Parental responsibility for
raising children
11. The fetters of maternal love
12. How to raise a son
13. 6 principles of education from
the millionaire mom
14. Phrases that will change the
life of your child
1. Types of children's fears
In this
section, we will talk about the types of children's fears and how to
distinguish between them.
Children
have many fears, and all of them can be completely different, manifest
themselves in completely different situations and circumstances.
A child
can get scared of absolutely anything and we won’t even understand what the
reason is.
To do
this, you must be in close contact with the child and quickly calm him down.
No matter
how many varieties of fear there would be, they can be divided into two main
types:
• Natural
• Acquired.
Natural fears
Generally,
to be very precise, when a child is born, it is a pure product of love, and
there is not a shadow of fear in it. At all is nothing. He came from a place
where there is only love and he himself is the purest unconditional love of
God.
Fears
appear over time, but natural fears are not transmitted from people, but nature
itself has laid them in man to save his life. This can still be called the
instinct of self-preservation.
So what
are these natural fears? These are the fears that are responsible for saving
the life of the child, and later the adult person.
Natural
fears have a real basis and arise at the very moment when something threatens
the body.
For
example, when a child is at a high altitude, he begins to fear it, because he
knows that falling from this height can be fatal to him.
Also,
children are afraid of loud noises due to surprise. In general, everything that
is sharp causes fear, everything that is fast and large causes fear. Fast is
difficult to control, which means it is dangerous. In addition, the fast and
the small also cause fear, for the same reason.
A child
may be frightened by dogs that run at him with full speed, having bared their
teeth or a sharp flash of lightning.
That is
exactly what is happening here and now, which can harm and even take a life.
Summing
up, natural fears are those that have a real basis and arise from danger here
and now. You can even safely say that this is physical fear. This body is
afraid of the threat in its direction, and the fear of the body is transmitted
to the mind, which remembers the case for the rest of life, in order to save
the body from similar situations in the future.
Natural
fears are those that the child has experienced through their own experiences.
The
disadvantage of these fears is that in the future a person can grow, but still
to be afraid of dogs or lightning, heights. Although let's say, there are
situations when the fear is not justified and the body is not afraid, but the
mind, who has remembered the previous dangerous incident, is already afraid.
Acquired fears
These fears are acquired by children from
adults, who either used to be frightened of something or try to protect their
children from this, or when adults simply corny scare their children to achieve
the desired behavior.
These
fears are often not justified and not experienced by children through
experience. They are more illusory. There is nothing real in these fears these
are only fears of the mind and nothing more. The child is afraid of what does
not exist here and now. He is afraid of what may once happen, and this is an
illusion.
The reality is only that which is here and now, that
is, that which surrounds the body.
But if
the child goes to the dentist and has not yet reached him, and is already
afraid of him, then this is an illusion. After all, there may be street, trees
around, and the child is already in the study with his thoughts and imagines
various horrors.
Real
fears are the fears of the body, those that threaten the body here and now. If
an angry dog running to a child right now, ready to attack him, is a real fear.
But if a child walks down the street and is afraid to meet a dog, then this is
an illusory fear.
So here
it is. Almost all fears, acquired or illusory, never come true, because they do
not have a real basis, but only invented by the mind of a child and no more.
Just of
fantasy. But if fantasy becomes a phobia, it can become a reality.
Since everything that we fear becomes reality, for it
is attracted to our life, and that which we love is equally attracted.
Here in
general, that's all. It is important that the child has as little as possible
acquired fears, illusions that are not true, for they are the main reason that
prevents the child from realizing his full potential.
Fear of
the dark is illusory fear.
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